Monday, May 26, 2008

My Advice to Nerds (a nerd manefesto if you will)

I often give my brother a tongue-and-cheek hard time about being a "big nerd"; he has a good since of humor about it (though he was born a huge nerd, which is why my parents named him spencer). This had me thinking on why so many students at my brothers gifted high school were so socially annoying and or retarded. Why do nerds struggle so much socially and why do "jocks" hate them so much(rightfully so...damn nerds)?
My first advice to nerds would be to not worry about being the most socially gifted or popular, it is ultimately not that important. You were dealt a bad hand on that round, so don't worry if you don't clean up on it.
This is not to discount social skills; you ultimately don't want to be horrid with them. Therefore, the first thing the nerd should do is alter his paradigm; in doing this he should rightfully be confident in his mental prowess and should transfer that confidence so that it manifests that into social confidence. With that said, attempting to impress based entirely on your mental strengths is a strategy that has proven time-and-time again that it will get you-- beaten up. Therefore, nerds should put his or her perceptive study skills toward studying the funny kids and affable kids, who did not obtain their lofty status because of looks or athletic ability but because of hummor or philsophy. If you are simply not funny then at least be interesting in a currency with social value. If ultimately you enjoy talking about heisenberg microscope --awesome-- however, it couldn' hurt to first talking about sports or music. It is like that episode of the simpsons were Lisa tries to be cool, she pivots from youthful dialog to interesting nerdy talk about seashells.
In the long run nerds, you are far more valuable to society if you focus on your nerdy endevours. I am simply advocating this brief advice to encourage in your social time to flurish a tad. If you have the confidence your nerdy ways has bestowed on you and are at the very least affable then you should at least be able to occasionaly make small talk with the popular kids.

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